Monday, December 31, 2012

Here is to 2013. Here is to Hope.

Happy New Year!

2012 was a heck of a year. I can't say it was my favorite year ever. In fact, most of it sucked. But you have to go through the sucky things in life to get to the good and I plan on 2013 being amazing.

What happened this year? A lot. I've learned a lot through the pain and I'm thankful for what I've learned. Now I'm ready for the good part, the moving on part, the "happily ever after" part. I realize I may not find that part this year, but I can hope. I HAVE to hope. It's all I've got to keep me going.

So here is to 2013. Here is to hope.

Friday, December 21, 2012

What Makes a Woman? - Part 2

Here is the second installation of my series that I'm doing for Bloggers For Hope!

What Makes a Woman? - Part 2

This post dives into what it means to be nurturing and compassionate and the many ways that you can express that part of yourself even through infertility.

Thursday, December 13, 2012

What Makes a Woman?

Hey everyone! I'm doing a series on Bloggers for Hope called "What Makes a Woman."

All too frequently infertility can leave us feeling robbed of feeling like a "real" woman. This series tackles what really does make a woman and why infertility can't rob us of our womanhood.

You can read this series here: What Makes a Woman? Part 1

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

I Dreamed a Dream

I am super excited about the movie version of Les Miserables that is coming out on Christmas day. My husband and I love Les Miserables. I've always loved it, but now it has a whole new meaning to me. I feel like I can relate to several of the characters, two in particular: Fantine and Eponine.

The song, I Dreamed a Dream, is my song. It is about a woman who dreamed that life would hold nothing but the best for her and then she learns the cruel truth that life will beat you up and leave you broken.

I had a dream my life would be
So different from this hell I'm living
So different now from what it seemed
Now life has killed the dream I dreamed.

Who of us going through infertility can't relate to these words? Anyone going through any kind of heartache can relate. Fantine is a character without hope. Her dreams have been killed, her future destroyed. I have days that I feel that way. Sometimes this fight feels so hopeless. Sometimes it feels like this storm simply cannot be weathered.

Then there is Eponine. Eponine is in love with a man who loves someone else. She doesn't give up on her hope that he will one day love her in the way that she loves him. Finally, some of that love is she dies.

Don't you fret, M'sieur Marius
I don't feel any pain
A little fall of rain
Can hardly hurt me now
You're here, that's all I need to know
And you will keep me safe
And you will keep me close
And rain will make the flowers grow.

I can relate to her words as well, even though they are meant for the man she loves. Some days it feels like nothing could possibly hurt me after knowing the intense pain of not having the child that I long for. Holding that child close and keeping them safe is all that I dream of. 

Then there is the line, "And rain will make the flowers grow." Through this hell flowers have grown and I have to believe that more will bloom. I've found myself through this. I'll be a better mother for that. I'll appreciate my child in a way that many parents can't even imagine. I won't take a single breath or heartbeat for granted. But the most beautiful flower that I can see growing out of this horrible storm is my child. Through this pain I will get my precious child. I don't know if I'll give birth to them or if they will be brought to me through adoption, but they will be my treasured child.

This is why my husband and I have decided that if we have a daughter her name will be Eponine (nicknamed Nina to avoid confusion with teachers and some family members). And above her crib will be stenciled the beautiful words that I cling to...

...And rain will make the flowers grow.