tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2142131856196620274.post7007498862425017737..comments2023-10-23T07:41:12.949-07:00Comments on Getting There: Don't Ignore My Grief Over The Child I Long ForRachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06346260372838120494noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2142131856196620274.post-29656430087496479442012-04-27T07:29:27.208-07:002012-04-27T07:29:27.208-07:00Hugs, your words are my words, too. It's hard ...Hugs, your words are my words, too. It's hard having to grieve someone you never got the chance to meet every month.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09540357391500090255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2142131856196620274.post-65799711585124452702012-04-23T23:04:41.941-07:002012-04-23T23:04:41.941-07:00I do know that you grieve and there are many many ...I do know that you grieve and there are many many days (whether we have talked recently or not) when I wonder how you are doing and I wish that there was something, anything, I could do to make your dream come true.<br /><br />One thing in this post that caught my attention is when you said your child doesn't have a heartbeat yet.<br />I think your child's soul has already chosen you and is just waiting for the proper vessel to join the rest of us here. I think that their heart is already beating within yours, that you are sharing this part the journey together, they are already a part of you. And when the timing is right your heartbeats will separate as they join the rest of us who cannot feel or hear their heartbeat now, even though you can.<br /><br />And don't worry your child will most likely become close friends with your friend's child or their cousins at some point. I have a cousin who is eight years younger than me, we were never terribly close as children and even lost touch for some years but our familial bond is strong enough that after reconnecting we are very close now and feel as though we've always been best friends. So even though we didn't get that when young we have the experience now and now it means waaay more than it ever would have as a child. Just sayin'.Dragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14383072457350017110noreply@blogger.com